Below is a talk I gave in church last summer:
When we were asked
to talk about our favorite story from Jesus’ life, I thought about it, and
thought about it, and thought about it. I overachieved, and reread Matthew,
Mark, Luke, and John at one time. I’ve read them all before, but never in
succession. I don’t know about you, but whenever I read about Jesus, it’s
always for some holiday, or some class, or just picking and choosing a story to
read. It’s just a verse or series of verses to convey a point. So yes, I had
read all of these stories before, but there was something that really impressed me when I read it all in one
sitting. And it was really hard to pick just one story. So I didn’t. I cheated
a little. Christ continually and unselfishly helped everyone around Him. Verse
after verse, chapter after chapter, He is bullied, berated, hated, and
questioned by everyone. And verse after verse, He stops to help the people
those that hate him, those that others call small and unworthy. He says He
loves them, without even knowing them, regardless of everything they’ve ever
done wrong, and in spite of what others see in them. And this is what I decided
to talk about today. His love.
Really, that’s all
that Jesus was. Just love. Just the pure love of everyone in the world ever, as
long as the world is or has been in existence- every person you meet and see.
He loved them. He loves them. But it’s a certain kind of love that I really
admire Him for. He didn’t just love the people who were showing up to church
every week, getting straight A’s, doing everything right, being sweet angels.
He loved the the odd, the weirdos, the sinners, the harlots, the jerks, even
the people that hated him. He loved people no matter how much they stuck out,
or how much others said they didn’t belong. He took the opportunity to care for
them and teach them. He invited them into church just the same.
So I will start
with my first favorite story of Christ’s love. It is the parable of the sheep
in Matthew chapter 18. For anyone who doesn’t know the parable, it says that if
a man has 100 sheep, and one of them goes astray, he’s going to go looking for
that sheep. He’s not just going to leave it. He doesn’t say, “Eh, I have plenty
more where that came from.” He gets his hands dirty and gets that sheep back. And
when that one sheep does come back, he’s going to be happier about it than even
about those 99 that didn’t wander off. God will always welcome us back with
open arms. We, too, get so many opportunities to help our lost sheep, to
nurture them and help them come back to us. Do we always recognize those
opportunities, or do we sometimes miss them, because someone seems too lost or
out of place?
When I was about
eight or nine years old, my father was excommunicated. Before then he had loved
this church. He taught me about the priesthood. He served as a high priest. He
had gone on a mission. He was married in the temple. But now, my parents were
divorced, and he no longer had the priesthood. I was confused, and nothing made sense to me,
but he was my dad and I still loved him. I was told by my leaders that
excommunication was an act of love, to help him start over. This comforted me
immensely, but then I witnessed many of my neighbors, his previous friends,
stop talking to him. They whispered about him in the halls at church.
It broke my heart. Wasn’t he still
one of God’s children? Wasn’t he still my dad?
Several years
later, he was in another area, now a nonmember. He had become angry and bitter
towards the church. He turned away missionaries and invitations to attend, but he
had a bishop that reached out to him. That bishop would visit and talk with my
dad, and they became friends. That
bishop found out that my dad loved and missed being involved in scouts, and
decided help a lost sheep. He then invited my dad to be a scout leader, and my
dad was ecstatic. He had missed being a part of scouts so much, and he talked
about it weekly. He made sure my brothers were eagle scouts. He took me
camping, and made sure I knew how to tie all the knots, and start a rad log
house fire. So, of course, he immediately began preparing lessons for these
kids.
One day, he
received another visit from the bishop, who told him there had been complaints,
too many complaints, about him in the scout leader position. They had
threatened to pull their kids out of scouts because my father was a nonmember,
and they knew he drank alcohol in his home, and so the bishop had no choice but
void his offer. When my dad revealed this to me later, all I saw was hurt in
his eyes. It hurt me too, because he was my daddy. The bishop extended a hand
towards my dad. He was being Christlike and loving, which he will never know I
am so grateful for. He was trying to help get my father involved again. But it
can’t just be one person with a lantern, saying “here, sheep. Here, sheep.” In
our congregations we are all shepherds and we are all sheep. We need to bust
out a search party and love that lost sheep to death.
While giving the Sermon
on the Mount, Jesus delivered one of my other favorite lines, “Judge not, that
ye not be judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged.” He asks
the people how they can point out a mote, or a splinter, in their brother’s
eye, but forget about the giant beam in their own eye. Christ, the only perfect
person ever to walk the earth, the only person that honestly could place
judgment on someone without hypocrisy, tells all his disciples that they
shouldn’t do it. I take this thought with me to church every week. I think we
can slip up sometimes, and look at someone and think, “Why are they even here?
Why are they LDS? They do this and this and this. They don’t deserve to be
here. They should just leave.” We forget that someone could look at us, and for
whatever the reason may be, they could think the same thing. And I don’t know
about you guys, but I really want to be here. Church can sometimes be my
sanity, even if I’m snoring—Of course by accident.
Recently,
I read a blog posted by a Christian actress. I’ve seen it floating on a couple
of other Facebook walls, so I know some here have read it. It seemed almost too
perfect for this talk. It is called, “Three Immodestly dressed women walk into
a church.” It contains a story about three women, and shows why we cannot and
should not judge people inside of our halls.
The first woman is
new to church and has recently discovered the gospel, after previously being
rebellious and a little wild. This is her first time attending, but all she has
is a skirt that stops above the knees and a tank top.
The second woman
has recently gained a lot of weight, and all of her clothes fit poorly and are
now too tight. However, she doesn’t have the money yet to buy new clothes.
The third is a
young teen, still grappling with the idea of being “cool” and “modest” at the
same time. An older woman tells her that she would never allow her child out
dressed like that, that men in this church only want “respectable” girls. The
girl hides in the bathroom the rest of the day and many Sundays after.
In all of these
stories, we have a couple of choices. We can judge an outward appearance and
assume these women’s inner reasons and feelings for dressing like they do,
potentially blocking some kind of spiritually uplifting experience for both of
us. Or we can open our doors and unlock our hearts and just love them for being
here, for taking that step. Christ, in all of his perfection, told us in
Matthew 22 that the greatest commandment is to love God, and that the second
greatest is to love thy neighbor as thyself. Can we remember this and act with
love towards everyone we meet? We never know why people do what they do. We
never know what they’re going through. Perhaps our love is just what they need
to feel the spirit, to feel whole.
President Uchdorf
gave a conference talk last October called, “Come join with us.” It resonated
with me. He said that there is room for all here, that we can find similarities
in our yearnings, struggles, and hopes. We may have different upbringings, but,
and I quote, “we need your unique talents and perspectives. The diversity of
persons and peoples all around the globe is the strength of this church.” I
would like to add one more thing to this already fabulous idea. That we are all
children of God, and we should treat each other as such. What a new found
respect for people we can have if we view them this way. How will it change our
actions and thoughts towards them?
I loved this talk
and felt that it pertained to me, like he was speaking right to me. I don’t
look like a stereotypical Mormon. I have a very unconventional upbringing.
Aside from my father, my mother is a convert from Judaism. I grew up with bits
of everything and teachings from everywhere. My dad even experimented with
Native American spirituality. As a lifelong Utahn, I often felt alienated at
church, like I didn’t belong there, but I loved the beautiful ideas from the
Book of Mormon, adding to and extending broad ideas from the Bible. When I was
struggling the most with my differentness, my brother would tell me something I
loved. Chris has now informed me that what he said is a famous quote, but I’m
going to continue attributing it to my brother, because it made him seem
terribly wise and thoughtful. He said, “Church is a hospital for the spiritually
sick, not a rest home for the righteous. You deserve to be here just as much as
the rest of us.”
When we moved to
Columbus I was nervous—nervous that I would have to start all over again,
proving that I was worthy to be here with everyone else, that people might not
accept me because I don’t seem like a “typical” Mormon. What I found was the
opposite. My previous ward, and now this one, welcomed with open arms. So many
people extended love in my direction, taking me in, making me feel like I belonged.
Two Christmases ago, I sang at our ward Christmas party in full hair school
regalia—All black from head-to-toe, a school shirt that was too small, because
that was the only size they had left, pants when others were in skirts, hot
pink lipstick, and yes, even my purple hair. Afterwards, one of the girls came
up to me and said, “I’m so glad that you are you, and that you are here.” I
can’t tell you how much that meant to me, something so small she will probably
never know. She could have looked at me and thought, “She doesn’t belong here.”
She could have never talked to me or done her visiting teaching, because I
looked like the kind of person that wouldn’t be into that, but she didn’t. She
reached out to me with a Christlike love, and pulled me into the ward, bringing
us both closer to the gospel and to Christ. She just loved me.
So
many in this ward have done the same, and I thank you all for your love. If
there is anyone here that is worried they don’t belong, I urge you to read any
chapter about Jesus’ life. He welcomed all. His church is for everyone, so
please stay here with us. I love that we are all children of our Heavenly
Father, siblings to our Savior, Jesus Christ, no matter what else we are, and I
hope that we can emulate them and remember to love everyone, inside…and
outside… of this building. I’m so grateful to be a part of this ward, and for
the friendship that many of you have already shown me. Thank you.
I say these things in the name of
Jesus Christ, amen.
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